I think it's important to keep in mind that the DOC isn't really a car club as much as it is a group of longtime friends. The game is different when people in the club LIKE each other.
The Durango club tent at these shows is never full of bored wives, unentertained children, unrestrained egos, or dudes who hire their own photographer and cherry picker. There are other, bigger, clubs that offer that if it's what you want.
We have tents with inflatable palm trees, homemade salsa and hand-dug moats to keep the rain out. We're friends and it's more like friends at a barbecue than folks competing for a national title.
So just relax, enjoy, and maybe have another one of those margaritas? no flipping out required.