For a mostly on-road normal driving vehicle, I'd really (really) only use a manual locker. A manual locker has normal open-diff operation (zero clicks or odd behavior) until you flip the switch to lock it. I have two ARB lockers on my Jeep, which require a 90PSI air pressure to activate. Other mfg's have electric versions of manual lockers which just use 12V, so are easier to implement.
I can't imagine someone on LI, NY needing lockers for just bad weather. I drove my D and my Jeep all over upstate NY (lived in Poughkeepsie 41 yrs until 2011) and never needed a locker on-road in any weather (2 locked diffs on an icy road? Think hockey puck on a hill). They are usually only on vehicles intended for serious off-road activity. I have a lot of friends in Long Island Off-Road (LIORclub.ORG). If you need local advice or want to get something installed, let me know.